I have read your post. I have been saddened by your story. I am posting to see if there is anyone who has any more ideas that may help you and your situation. I have been a major lurker on your blog and would like to tell you My Band and I are still giggling over the Hammer Video.
I know how hard it must have been to post about the struggle. I hope you find the answer that will best fit you and your family. You have a good heart and I know it will lead you to find a good solution.
So if any of my fellow readers have any ideas please send them over to my bloggy friend Beth.